"You can't compare an apple to an orange. It will cause a lot of self-esteem issues."
People often ask us - what is the best personality to have? The immediate answer to this question is that there is no best personality style. But this isn't strictly true. Here are three questions to help you uncover why you may be questioning how 'good' your personality is.
1. What job are you doing? Rather than there being a 'best' personality style, certain personality types will be better suited to some job roles than others. This is why people can feel that they have the 'wrong' personality. Your personality is never wrong, but your job fit might be. Does your personality match your role? Consider this for yourself and also if you are recruiting others into roles. Ensure their core behavior traits and preferences match the daily demands of the role.
2. What does your company value? Different companies will place importance on different traits. Some companies will prefer bold and courageous risk takers and others will prefer people who are more contemplative and considered in what they do. Notice the personality traits of those around you and in particular of those people who get promoted. If you have similar traits then you have a good fit and your chances for promotion will be high. If you need to adapt slightly then that is possible but if you feel that the corporate values are completely out of sync with your personality and beliefs then it might be better to look for opportunities elsewhere.
3. Is it working for you? If you are happy with who you are and are being effective then there is no need to worry about whether you have the 'best' personality style. If you feel it would beneficial for you to adapt or change in some way, for example by being more sensitive or outgoing, reflective or confident, then new behaviours can always be learnt. Remember your underlying personality will pretty much stay the same, but you can learn new skills to adapt to different circumstances.
Remember you are unique for a reason. Find what you are good at doing and do it in an environment that works for you; and never stop learning and improving.